sydneykrukowski:

rubyfruitgirl:

Lets get real about the plethora of articles abt whether straight women belong in gay bars. First of all, there’s not like..a bouncer outside of every gay bar checking your ID to see if you’re straight or cis and then throwing you to the curb lmao. So if you feel the need to write an article arguing that you belong in a gay bar then you are not arguing for the right to enter a gay bar, to buy drinks there, to go dancing, to watch a drag show. You can do those things without anyone paying you any mind. What you are criticizing isn’t that you face any actual discrimination in LGBT spaces but that these spaces were never built to cater you. The cishet experience is being so used to a world built around you that people who experience homophobia & transphobia building their own spaces feels like a slight. You aren’t entitled to feeling like you belong in a space that was built for us to hide from people like you. Write a new think piece. 

another thing is that when you, as a straight woman, walk into a gay bar? you can’t start bitching and whining about the gross ugly dykes who ask you to dance or try to buy you drinks. it’s a gay bar. it’s for us. it’s not for you to gawk at us like it’s a fucking petting zoo, and in a space for men to meet men and women to meet women, don’t be surprised if a woman tries to interact with you romantically. that’s the whole fucking point of a gay bar.